Letters - Dating in Taiwan

Just received this letter recently, and thought I'd share it here:

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Hi Ken

My questions are personal nature and you maybe not want to answer it.

It has nothing to do with just with me

Here the story:

I meet a taiwan woman,, 28yo, i am 40, this year in october in Europe

she was traveling with another women from taiwan about her age

we got involved into each other and ended up traveling our self, without her friend through

germany and so on for one month and resting in my apartment in switzerland afterwards.

things got rather serious from a love point of view

myself, i have been to many countries in the world, the usa, canada

middle east and of course all over asia. in the past ten years i operated out

of bangkok and went all over the asian area for private trips and so on

so i have some experience with asian woman

however i never encountered a taiwan women. they seem, with underlining seem, to be

different then lets say the thais or japanese AND to some degree, to my surprise, the

chinese

i myself are from switzerland

in switzerland, and probably also in the usa, many women from asia and other places in the

world would like to go and work and live there

there starts my problem with judging the women. and when i came across your blog

i was thinking, lets ask Ken, maybe he has some tips.

how can i make sure, or at least try to access the real nature of interest of a girl

really getting involved with me. the least thing i want is to be a simple sponsor for

somebody to come to europe under a false statement to me.

i know its a difficult question and maybe not answered with one email.

but maybe you can show me some tips and feedbacks you brought back from there to

your place, and maybe you know the differences between taiwanese women and thais and

chinese and japanese and so on, and can give me some inputs

ok, think this is enough for now, i wait for your response

kind regards

phil

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To start off, I can't really tell you the differences between Taiwanese, Chinese, Japanese, and Thais because I haven't dated any Chinese, Japanese, or Thais. Only Taiwanese. I have a reader on my other blog that is married to a Japanese woman, so maybe he can write in and tell you his views on that.

I don't think you can tell the true intent of a girl after only two months (you said you met her in October). I would recommend that you visit her in Taiwan. Meet her family and spend some time with them, learning their culture. There is a 12 year age difference between the two of you, but 40 is still young, so I doubt she sees you as a "sugar daddy." It is possible that she only wants to use you as a sponsor for her green card. That is very possible, since there seems to be a lot of this particular type of woman running around Taiwan.

Take things slowly. If she is asking you to sponsor her after only two months, that is a bad sign. If she really loves you, she won't care where she lives, as long as it's with you.

Good luck

(Pictures: Two Taiwanese girls looking for fun in Kenting.)